Today I’m admitting something that’s kind of hard to fess up to because of a stigma attached to it: I tried therapy. And actually, so far, it’s working wonders. I’ve learned that many people suffer from anxiety, which I had no clue was so common, and reading others’ brave posts made me want to share my own experience.
You can also find me guest posting more about my own therapy experience on Cassie’s blog today, as part of the Speak Up for Silence series with her and Christine. In the meantime, I wanted to share some of the most helpful takeaways I’ve gotten in therapy, so far.
-I cannot change the past and I cannot control the future.
-I should not dwell on the unknown.
-I cannot control other people’s actions or feelings and I shouldn’t give them the power to control mine.
-Someone else’s opinion does not have to become my truth.
-Other people’s actions are not a reflection of me.
-I control my own decisions. I should never feel bad for what other people might think of me or what I do.
-My feelings are never bad, and I shouldn’t feel shame, as long as I don’t act negatively on the bad feelings or thoughts.
-Assertiveness is a set of skills, not a type of person. Like most skills, it can be learned and chosen when to be used. Just like something in your tool set — it’s there when you need it and put away when you don’t.
-In times of panic, trick your mind out of its natural flight-or-fight response and force yourself to think rationally by breaking down all scenarios and making them manageable.
-(Unhealthy) Worrying is a waste of time.
Have you ever tried therapy? What tips do you have?
Click HERE to read my post sharing my full therapy journey.