Amanda Moments
May 30, 2014

40 questions to ask your spouse

When my husband and I went on our honeymoon, I brought along a newlywed book, and among the information in the book, it also contained some questions to ask each other. A lot of the questions we had asked each other already, but some we hadn’t. Things like how we’re going to save for retirement together and what family traditions each had as kids that we wanted to incorporate into our new family together. By going down the list, we both learned so much more about each other and helped us understand the other’s hopes, dreams, goals and ideals. It really helped us bond.

Then a little while ago I found a pin that has a printable game to ask some more light-hearted questions and quiz each other on your answers, played sort of like the Newlywed Game on TV. I knew it was a perfect (and free!) date night activity.

Going into it, I thought for sure we’d both do amazing and get very few wrong answers. Ha. We did OK I guess, but not as well as I thought. For instance, I was actually shocked that Cal got my biggest fears wrong. I thought for sure he knew they were needles and/or ghosts (or ghosts with needles). He wrote down spiders! What the what?!

The point is that no matter how well you think you know your spouse, you don’t know everything. And to go deeper, you have to ask questions. Even ones you think you know the answer to. Thing is, answers can change over time. As we continue through life and have new experiences and grow up, priorities change, we have new hopes and dreams, we try new things, etc.

Doing this activity was not only really fun, but sort of eye opening for us. We realized that both of us were in the dark on some of the other’s new favorite things and some of our life dreams. We laughed a lot doing it, and we also learned a lot. It sparked discussion that wouldn’t have otherwise happened, and it was such a worthwhile activity.

The way the particular printable I first found was structured seemed way too involved, so we modified (read: simplified) it for our own use. That’s what prompted me to just make an entirely new printable just for you all! I took some of the questions from the printable I found and added some more in inspired from my newlywed handbook. (This is also the very first ever printable I’ve made, and I’m sure I did it in the most inefficient way possible, so bear with anything that is wonky.)

Once you download the files, just print out a copy of each page for both you and your spouse (or boyfriend!). Sit down together and fill it out. For each question, write in your own answer in the first column on the second page. In the second column, guess what you think your partner is writing down. When you’ve both finished, go through them together and share your answers.

You could just skip the second page entirely if you want and just read the questions out loud then take turns answering them. I personally recommend writing down though because then your answers are more genuine and uninfluenced.

(Pardon the small spaces to write in. I had a heckuva time designing this and it was the best I could do. You could just take blank notebook paper and write in that if it’s easier.)

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I hope some of you readers in a relationships take some time to do this activity, have some fun and learn more about your partner. It really is a great way to pass some time at home together and bond without technology.

What’s your favorite couple game?

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33 responses to “40 Questions to Ask Your Spouse”

  1. Daryl says:

    This looks like a lot of fun! Printing it out now to try with my boyfriend later tonight! Thanks!

  2. I love this! I have been writing down various “interview” questions for Nick to answer for a future (or multiple) blog posts but I’ve been waiting for a roadtrip to do so. It’ll pass the time faster! Thankfully we have about 5 roadtrips in the next 6 weeks!

  3. Krystal R. says:

    Pinned even though I dont have a spouse yet 🙂

  4. I love doing these types of things. Especially on long road trips/plane rides. You always learn something new about each other! Love the list.

  5. Fun! I’ll be bringing this on our road trip tomorrow!

  6. Love this. Will bring it on our vacation. Thank you!

  7. cheriarmour says:

    This is awesome! Totally doing this!

  8. Amberly says:

    I love these sorts of things!! I’m going to do this on our drive to our anniversary getaway next weekend 😉 And I pinned it! Such fun!

  9. Rachael says:

    Way to go on making this!! SO cute!

  10. Meagan says:

    So fun! Now I just need to get Tim to play along…. 🙂

  11. I love this!!! Definitely going to use this for our next vlog on the blog. (:

  12. I love this! My husband hates talking about himself but I think if I make it more of a game, he would be interested. It’s so fun to find out that you don’t always know everything about one another.

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  20. E. Smith says:

    Fantastic post! These are some great questions to keep the sparks going in a marriage. I look forwards to trying these out with my husband. Thank you!

  21. Great questions to add depth to any couple interested in deepening their knowledge of their significant other.

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